You’ve seen all the euphoria from people who passed the bar exam.
You’re probably “inspired” and “motivated” when you look at success stories and accounts of people who excitedly announce they passed the bar exam.
When that happens, we say things like “if they can do it, so can I” (true). Or “I needed this today.”
That’s some “new year, new me” type energy. I’m not letting you off the hook like that.
Anyone can desire to pass the bar. Anyone can fixate on the goal and SAY they want it.
These are people who come to me desperate and lost… get “inspired” or gain “perspective”… and then return to the same old cycle looking for hits of relief.
What’s your motivation for taking the bar exam?
To begin with, what’s your reason for wanting to pass this exam?
You actually don’t have to take this exam, you know? (Should I even be telling you this?) I accidentally convinced someone to not take the bar exam again.
But YOU want to pass the exam, right? Why?
Prestige? To support your family? To wear a nice suit? To make award speeches on social media? Because you’re supposed to? Because you went to law school and think you have no other choice?
This is your “motivation.” Motivation literally just means a reason to act.
But “I want to pass the bar exam” is a heavy statement that requires commitment and thousands of actions in preparation.
Being calm, collected, and confident on the bar exam is based on decisions and actions you make well ahead of time. This is also part of “preparation.” You could try to conjure up “confidence” at the last moment, but all bets are off when it’s game time and the cards are on the table.
“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.”
Look, you often won’t feel confident. That’s normal. Expect that. Don’t get misled by the allure of being confident on the bar exam. That’s not the point.
If you want someone to comfort you and give you cookies, visit your grandma. You want to be barred like those people? You want to know how exquisite that feeling is?
Then don’t waste your time chasing after confidence. Chase after competence.
Sounds real neato… How do you keep this going?
Maintaining your motivation during bar prep
Whether you’re just getting started on preparing for the bar exam for the first time, or whether you’re retaking the exam once again, I want you to keep it up and not run out of steam during your bar preparation.
But motivation is not sustainable by itself. This is a marathon.
So instead, use your fleeting motivation to create momentum.
The more you move, the easier it is to keep moving. Maintain the momentum.
Studies show that we get more motivated when we see progress.
The opposite is also true: An object at rest stays at rest.
I used to be really into this one puzzle-platformer video game.
It’s hard! You’re expected to fail a lot. I died hundreds of times each level. But the game showed me this:
When I got stuck at an impossible-looking screen and was tempted to give up, I managed to get better from trial and error and eventually make progress.
Video games may be more fun than bar prep, but you can also make the bar exam fun with a sense of progress built in.
People are simple. We work hard for good outcomes.
The more you die, and the more plants that die under your care, the more you’re learning.
The best way to make this happen?
Enjoy the process.
You could power through bar prep by hating your life, but that’s less sustainable than having momentum on your side.
How am I able to send emails to my subscribers (sign up here) and write blog articles, consistently, year in and year out?
(Not to mention coordinating with bar supplement companies, constantly updating my products, and working a full-time attorney job.)
- I love sharing these insights with you in a fun way.
- I get excited when I give you “aha!” moments.
- It makes my day when I get notes from bar takers saying how the nightmare is finally over or how they’re improving or excited (I tag every note like this in my inbox because they mean a lot to me).
My repeat attempt at the bar exam was about trying different things and intentionally taking small steps to be prepared. I needed to figure out this bar thing. To do that, I needed to enjoy the process.
Granted, bar prep is pretty much the dryest activity in the world… How did I enjoy the process of bar prep?
✅ No more lectures. (Or as needed)
✅ No more filling in meticulous lecture notes until the sun went down.
✅ No more cookie-cutter plans.
✅ I took plenty of breaks.
✅ I tried different things to see what worked for me.
Bar exam preparation is about learning, not education. Retention, not mere exposure. Understanding, not just memorizing.
These things are much easier to do if you enjoy the process.
“Bar exam preparation is about learning, not education. Absorbing, not mere exposure. Understanding, not just memorizing.”
When things started clicking because I was going through examples instead of theory, when I saw my scores go up, when I wasn’t dead tired from filling in the blanks…
These got me through the days and weeks. My parents said I looked much happier than my first attempt. I was even working part time then.
Hard work doesn’t mean you have to suffer.
To reach your long-term goal of passing the bar exam, motivation must come from yourself. To do that, enjoy the process.
“To reach your long-term goal of passing the bar exam, motivation must come from yourself. To do that, enjoy the process.”
Here’s an example, from someone just like you:
When you’re having “fun,” you’re enjoying the process itself, and the result is sure to come eventually.
She passed btw:
What about Pralika, a repeating foreign lawyer?
Oh yeah, she passed, too:
Do you see a pattern? I’m not just talking out of my ass here.
You’ve wished enough. You’ve expressed your desire enough.
So your action step for today is to find one thing you will try to make this process sustainable.
I want to know what you’re going to do, so let me know down in the comments.