What do you say when you’re not sure how to talk to a new person at a networking event (or holiday party)?
Here’s a simple script that worked perfectly for me:
- Walk toward someone.
- Extend a hand. (Adjust for pandemic times)
- Say, “Hi, I don’t think we met. What’s your name?”
And then you’re off to the races.
If this seems too simple, that’s the point. It’s not the perfect tactical wordsmithing of your intro that makes or breaks you. It’s the fact that you acted on a good enough plan to overcome the threshold for approach anxiety.
The parallel to bar prep is worrying about which supplements to use, which tutor to use, which newsletters to follow… when the most important thing is to have a plan, start moving, and stay consistent.
You can only learn. You cannot be taught by something else.
In the end, whichever course or supplements you use, this is a self-study endeavor. You’re responsible for preparing yourself. Don’t forget that courses and supplements are just there to support that.
“But it’s too cold outside, and it’s too warm inside, and this temperature delta and holiday spirit are making me too relaxed to do anything.”
I’m not letting you off the hook thinking “new year, new me!” and then NOT following through with your plans.
Keep the following 3 ideas in mind to light a fire under your ass and keep those buns toasty:
I’m not saying family and holidays aren’t important.
But what is your priority? The origin of the word “priorities” is a singular word. That is, there is only ONE priority.
I worked with someone back in November who was debating how to fit bar prep with holiday and family duties. She had a revelation when I said that I did MBE questions on Christmas morning, which she didn’t want to do (which is fine). We decided that, you know what, the February bar exam is actually not a priority for her right now.
For that reason among others, July was probably a better choice for her, and we’ll plan for that instead. That’s perfectly fine. At least we got clearer on a more realistic approach instead of forcing something that wasn’t going to work.
Is passing the bar exam your priority or no?
You don’t need to spend ALL your time being festive or sharing memes on social media. It’s not going to kill you or “ruin” anything to spend a couple hours hitting the books. Stop being melodramatic.
Choose your hard
Preparing for the bar exam is hard.
Waiting, studying yet again, retaking, and waiting yet again for results over the next 9 to 11 months is hard.
What do you want your next year to look like?
Motivation for the bar exam
The greats always have a strong WHY that pushes them to the top.
The top musical, athletic, business talents of the world have their personal emotions to lean on. Maybe it’s not possible for someone to get up on stage in an innocent state.
It’s OK if you don’t have anything like that. You don’t need a beautiful cause.
You’ve just gotta find the formula that works for you and lights you up so that you can wake up every day energized to do something that matters to you.
Superficials like money, status, and vanity are fine (despite what they told you at law school orientation).
Not wanting to solve and review yet another multiple-guess question is fine.
Never again wanting to be distracted away from holidays with your family and friends is fine.
Whatever it takes to pass. You don’t need to get everything right. You don’t need the sugarcoated reasons you wrote in your personal statement.
So never say the words “I don’t have the motivation” ever again. Of course you have the motivation. Your motivation is to put the bar exam behind you and become an attorney.
Look at what other readers have said motivated them. I love the honesty!
Ultimately, motivation comes from action. Not the other way around. Doing is less exhausting than thinking about doing it.
Most people think they lack motivation when they really lack clarity to act on.
The key to clarity—and composure—is knowing the next step to take. Get clear on what you need to do, and the rest will follow.
If you want clarity and guidance for making this your last time preparing for the bar exam, check out Passer’s Playbook 2.0.