It’s finally here. Implementing, practicing, and doing. I hope, by doing those things, you’ve made solid progress!
You probably don’t feel ready anyway. The good news is that the more prepared you actually are, the less you feel prepared. The bad news is that the other way isn’t necessarily true.
Not all hope is lost, ye weary traveler. For now, go in with a “might as well, even if I’m screwed” or a “you never know until you try” attitude. You’ll be able to say, “I’m glad I tried.”
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As the exam gets closer, just remember that you are capable of passing the bar.
You may pass this time, or you may not. Let’s be honest and expect whatever your state’s pass rate is so that you can do your best anyway. But if you can graduate law school, you have it in you to make this your last time.
Like Kathleen who was a mother in her late 40s who graduated from a barely accredited law school.
Like Steph who was in prison for 32 years (who told me that checking for bar results was more stressful than checking on parole status).
Like Naoki and Ferdinand who never even went to an American law school.
Even if you fail the bar, it’s not going anywhere. It’s going to stay in the same spot, while you keep getting closer and closer like a predator moving in on a prey. Therefore, passing is inevitable.
It doesn’t matter where you start. This is an acquirable skill. You can always get better. It’s always a work in progress.
This will be over by this time next week. On the upside, it won’t be as bad as the months of waiting in anxiety and ennui you’ll have to go through. You can worry about that later.
Are you grinding away at bar prep until it shreds your brain and fatigues you for the rest of the day?
Repeat daily until the bar exam comes and washes you away from the shores of despondency? Illusion of freedom replaced by listlessness even though you think it’s finally over?
Oops, spoiler alert. You’re not quite there yet. Until then, you’re stuck with preparing for the bar and stuck with me.
“Why do things have to be so hard?” Maybe right now you’re feeling like the future is uncertain and you’re stressed and you’re screaming on the inside and blah blah blah.
Rule 1: Bar prep sucks.
Rule 2: You’ll have to deal with even worse things if you pass the bar.
Picky clients, taking on legal responsibility for everything, unlimited vacation days that never happen because of billables that everyone hates, etc. I’m about to faint just thinking about this.
Tired of learning? You’re going to become a professional learner and problem solver, so get used to it now. The bar exam doesn’t test a lot of relevant skills, but it does test your ability to learn and work with different things.
Wow! Thank you for pointing out our harsh reality. Give me back my dreams and excitement right now.
But I’m not saying this to paint a grim future. You could be “stuck,” but you don’t have to feel stuck.
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