Of course bar takers get lost when there are so many different ways to go about preparing.
You could try everything yourself, or you could find a few people you trust and ignore the rest.
I would rather pay someone I trusted literally 10x (or more) for insights I could apply, than information from 10 random people cobbled together. Just tell me what I need to know and the steps I need to take, dude!
Reason 1: Too much conflicting information actually STOPS you from doing anything.
Reason 2: I want the right insights, not just information. The information doesn’t even have to be perfect, as long as it makes sense to me and gets me to take action.
Reason 3: The more I respect the material (the more I pay), the more likely I am to do something with it.
How do you know whether to trust someone? Trust yourself to know.
Am I the only one who keeps a list of cringeworthy things they’ve done in the past? Anyone?
*crickets and random cough*
We learn our lessons by doing something and getting embarrassed and trying again. In fact, embarrassment is the best way I found to learn a lesson: actually doing things, realizing you did something wrong, feeling the pain, and using the pain to changing course in the future.
I’m not saying we should “make bad decisions” on purpose (#yolo). Life is already a constant stream of embarrassment anyway.
We simply need a willingness to endure embarrassment as fodder for our growth. Opening ourselves up to the possibility that we’re wrong.