Preparing for the bar exam forces you to cycle through various emotions over weeks and months.
One moment calm, feeling like you’ve done all you could. Panic and anxiety the next moment. Frustration. Utter confusion. Overwhelm. Back to relief. Rinse and repeat.
Reality can betray the most reasonable of your expectations and daydreams at whim, coloring the past with regrets and the future with despair.
But it can also present us with gifts if you look carefully. Some days you have to look much harder than other days.
If life only gives you lemons, you weren’t looking out for the oranges.
Here are five philosophies you can apply right now to mentally reframe how you feel about the bar exam:
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What do you say when you’re not sure how to talk to a new person at a networking event (or holiday party)?
Here’s a simple script that worked perfectly for me:
- Walk toward someone.
- Extend a hand. (Adjust for pandemic times)
- Say, “Hi, I don’t think we met. What’s your name?”
And then you’re off to the races.
If this seems too simple, that’s the point. It’s not the perfect tactical wordsmithing of your intro that makes or breaks you. It’s the fact that you acted on a good enough plan to overcome the threshold for approach anxiety.
The parallel to bar prep is worrying about which supplements to use, which tutor to use, which newsletters to follow… when the most important thing is to have a plan, start moving, and stay consistent.
You can only learn. You cannot be taught by something else.
In the end, whichever course or supplements you use, this is a self-study endeavor. You’re responsible for preparing yourself. Don’t forget that courses and supplements are just there to support that.
“But it’s too cold outside, and it’s too warm inside, and this temperature delta and holiday spirit are making me too relaxed to do anything.”
I’m not letting you off the hook thinking “new year, new me!” and then NOT following through with your plans.
Keep the following 3 ideas in mind to light a fire under your ass and keep those buns toasty:
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“I failed the bar exam.”
“I wish I passed the bar exam.”
Powerful realities that no amount of Law of Attraction could reshape and manifest.
It feels like the end of the world. You’re too depressed to do anything. You feel like there’s no solution.
Regretful, helpless, ashamed, depressed, frustrated, indignant, unable to fight fate like your favorite superhero. You want to punch yourself instead.
People who don’t understand say:
This is just a test.
This is just a person.
This is just a piece of paper.
But this is an important test.
But they were an important person you invested all your heart and effort to.
But it was an important memento infused with memories and sentiments.
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