When preparing for the bar exam, set up clear goals you can follow.
Say someone asks you what you want. You say that you want to pass the bar. Great, a north star that you can reach toward!
But the end goal itself doesn’t tell you what to do at any given moment. It often makes you feel good about the future end result, but it doesn’t mean you will do the needed things in between now and the desired result.
For example, a new year’s resolution like “I want to lose weight” gives you a nice self-affirmation and a burst of motivation.
However, 80% of such resolutions fail by February. There are many actions required, such as watching your calories and macros, exercising, and doing so consistently. Simply jumping in with a new gym membership is a recipe for your goal getting ghosted.
There are three main components to good goals…
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Every time the holidays roll around, a pang of guilt flashes across the bar taker’s heart as they balance social obligations and the big day looming.
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“DO I STUDY OR DO I HANG OUT WITH MY FAMILY?”
There are pockets of cultures surrounding work, rest, and self-care. Let’s divide them into two extreme stereotypical categories as a narrative device for me to make a point later:
I want to talk about dreams.
The world is changing and so must we. We can’t stay the same and can’t pretend everything else will stay the same.
Changing means not staying complacent.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”—Charles Darwin paraphrased
Do our dreams have to change? Your dream of becoming an attorney doesn’t have to change… BUT how you get there might have to.
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“I failed the bar exam.”
“I wish I passed the bar exam.”
Powerful realities that no amount of Law of Attraction could reshape and manifest.
It feels like the end of the world. You’re too depressed to do anything. You feel like there’s no solution.
Regretful, helpless, ashamed, depressed, frustrated, indignant, unable to fight fate like your favorite superhero. You want to punch yourself instead.
People who don’t understand say:
This is just a test.
This is just a person.
This is just a piece of film.
But this is an important test.
But they were an important person you invested all your heart and effort to.
But it was an important memento infused with memories and sentiments.
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A law firm was about to give me a job offer.
Turns out they had a strict GPA cutoff of top 10%. Even the partner who pushed for me got in trouble for ignoring their antiquated policy.
The gatekeepers said: No.
That’s OK. A different firm had given me an offer the day before.
I accepted it. I withdrew from yet another interview process.
But there was an issue with a conflict check that took nearly a month to conduct. They rescinded the offer. I had already moved apartments to be closer to the new firm.
Blue balled at the last minute again! Three birds in the hand, nothing to show for it.
“Who the hell are you to compare my failure to yours? Waa… at least you still have a job!”
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