“Why do things have to be so hard?”
Maybe right now you’re feeling like the future is uncertain and you’re stressed and you’re screaming on the inside and blah blah blah.
Rule 1: Bar prep sucks.
Rule 2: You’ll have to deal with even worse things if you pass the bar.
Picky clients, taking on legal responsibility for everything, unlimited vacation days that never actually happen because of billables that everyone hates, etc. I’m about to faint just thinking about this.
Tired of learning? You’re going to become a professional learner and problem solver. The bar exam doesn’t test a lot of relevant skills, but it does test your ability to learn and work with different things.
Wow! Thank you for pointing out our harsh reality. Give me back my dreams and excitement right now.
But I’m not saying this to paint a grim future. You could be “stuck,” but you don’t have to feel stuck.
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What do you think of this…
- “We’re all in this together”
- “You’re not alone”
- “With everyone gathered together, we finally stand a chance against the final boss”
All very good? I guess?
Feeling like you’re part of a crusade against “them” can be uplifting and inspiriting.
I don’t say these things out loud, but I’m basically guilty of it. Trying to make the prepping process more palatable for you. Feeling like I did something helpful when you tell me things like “I needed this today.”
But I have mixed feelings about letting comforting words wash over you like a warm shower TOO much. The bar exam is considered difficult for a reason.
And you know me… I live in practical reality. The more you make the exam a priority (see MTYLT rule #3), the more I’m willing to help. I don’t JUST want to tell you what you WANT to hear.
Here’s what you NEED to hear instead:
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Dude, I get it… This shit exhausting.
You don’t want to take this exam or SEE another question EVER again. You want nothing more than to pass this stupid bar so that you can move on with your life.
You can see the One Outcome on the horizon. So close yet so far.
But you can’t escape this endless cycle. You’re not allowed to. Not yet.
Wake up, then crash your face into the pillow. Hope and despair, rinse and repeat. It feels like you’ve been preparing for this bar exam this whole year.
It doesn’t even feel real anymore. But this exam is the realest thing in your life right now. So I hope you’re not spending all day thinking about unimportant fiction, catching up on all the distractions, panic, and the doom and gloom.
All the constant news in bar world, about remote testing issues, how the grading works, diploma privilege, exam software concerns…
Feels great to have some drama in your life. Something OTHER than Civ Pro to vent about!
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