Am I the only one who keeps a list of cringeworthy things they’ve done in the past? Anyone?
*crickets and random cough*
We learn our lessons by doing something and getting embarrassed and trying again. In fact, embarrassment is the best way I found to learn a lesson: actually doing things, realizing you did something wrong, feeling the pain, and using the pain to changing course in the future.
I’m not saying we should “make bad decisions” on purpose (#yolo).
We simply need a willingness to endure embarrassment as fodder for our growth. Opening ourselves up to the possibility that we’re wrong.
I’ve been where you are. In a way, I’m still there.
Your hair feels gross, the fridge is empty, and you’ve been scraping together whatever free time you can. Words in front of you are jumbling together into a blurry mess, passing by like a dream and also slipping away like one.
In short, you feel like an anxious pile of crap because there’s so much to do with so little time to study for the bar exam and you’re feeling the pressure from the impending doomsday. The worst combination.
But it’s not just time. Time isn’t your scapegoat. “Life is short” is propaganda by people who wasted their time.
“Yeah, maybe when I have more time. I’m going to feel motivated someday. Everything happens for a reason.” Oh, okay.
You need ENERGY. You need CLARITY so you can do productive work. Even if you had the “motivation,” it doesn’t mean jack unless you do something with it.
I’m seriously the LEAST energetic person you’ll ever meet. If I can find ways to juggle things, then so can you, a person who has generally been successful in life. We all have 24 hours a day.
Back in college, I gave my cheat sheet for our engineering midterm to a girl. How do you say no to a girl? Answer: You can’t.
It had all the equations needed, but she got the lowest score in the class because she didn’t know how and when those equations applied. She hadn’t practiced applying those rules on similar problems.
She was my gf at the time btw. Awkward! Oh well, live and learn.
And that’s what I want to talk about—learning.
It’s not putting in the time itself that makes you better. Improvement comes from constant feedback and learning every time you try to solve a difficult problem.
Everything you get wrong while practicing can be a painful lesson you carry over to future instances. Embarrassment is the best way I’ve found to learn a lesson.
This seems obvious enough. Why aren’t more bar takers doing this? Why so overly concerned with memorizing (over recalling and applying rules)? Why focus on sheer quantity of questions (over reviewing answers carefully and perhaps redoing them)?